An effective way to How to Deal with a Child’s Tantrums and Tempers Charles August 18, 2014 Family Children tend to throw tantrums in order to get attention, in an effort to control the parent. Ignoring the tempers and tantrums can be an effective strategy. However, there is a right and a wrong way to do it. Establishing the Cause It is important to first establish the cause of the tantrums. Tantrums can be caused by a number of things; tempers and whining are often an expression of the child’s frustration. Ignoring tantrums can only be effective if two conditions are met. One is that it must be impersonal and you as the parent must ignore the child completely avoiding eye contact and touch. The other is that you must have a healthy relationship with your child. Learning How to Deal With It If the connection between you and your kids is not strong, this may not be effective. It is also important to ensure that every adult around you handles the child in the same manner. You need to learn how to handle your child every time he throws a tantrum, as well as determine how you will deal with it when it happens. This can help you to avoid reacting emotionally and mishandling the situation.